Yes I am a College student

     Well it has been a while since I have written anything and this is the reason why, I am a college student now and to be perfectly honest that has taken up a lot of my time.

     Since starting my second year I have learned a lot about myself and others. I am one of the oldest people in my class and because of that I have seen a lot of things that the others have not and I have a appreciation for things that the others do not.

     One thing I have learned is that the younger ones in the class have the attitude that they could care less.  There are two students in my class that especially come to mind. They are both fresh out of high school. One of them did not even bother to get a textbook, now in her defense the book is almost $200, maybe she could not afford it, or maybe the school bookstore did not have any in stock. Anyway she asked me if she could have my textbook over the weekend, I had to tell her no.  Now some of you may think I was being mean or cruel, but I just did not feel comfortable letting this person take my book the entire weekend when all she does during class is tap on her phone. It is against school policy to have your phone out when you are in class, Ms. Jordan, the teacher is a very forgiving instructor and understands that some of her students have children (like myself) and they may have to be contacted if an emergency comes up, she will allow you to have your phone in class, just cut the ringer off and keep it out of sight, I guess the slang term would be out of sight out of mind. Now this student that is constantly on her phone and does not have a textbook makes sure that she sits at the back of the room in a seat so that the teacher can not see that she is on her phone. I guess you could say that the girl is smart about not getting caught, but not so much when it comes to listening to what the teacher is saying or learning anything.

     The other student is a guy and I will say this, he did buy a textbook and when the girl asked him if she could have the book the weekend he did not hesitate to hand it over to her. He is a student that you can tell could care less about the class he is taking, I think the way he sees it he is just filling a space and from what I am assuming he is going to NETC because his parents told him to.

     The older students have the attitude that they want to make something of their life. One of the older students I was speaking with actually told me that when he was in High school he goofed off and now that he is older he said that he was going to get it right. I suppose I have the same attitude.

     I have done well so far in my classes. This semester I am taking Accounting 101, Accounting 120 (Federal income tax) and an online class CPT 101 (introduction to computers). My goal is to earn my degree and graduate with honors. So far I am doing well my first test in ACC120 I made a 93 and the second test I made a 99 (bringing my average up to a 96). The first test in ACC101 I made a 90 it wasn't an "A" but I know that I can take other test and bring my average up, especially since the teacher is giving us extra credit for the next test. The computer class I have an average so far of 99.3.

    I was on the deans list for the spring semester 2014 and if I can maintain an "A" in every class this semester I will be on the deans list for the fall semester 2014. I know I can do it just takes dedication, and I am dedicated to doing my best.

Grandma, I'm DONE

 

 

 

  I have to admit that there are a lot of things that I can put up with from people, but there comes a time when I have to sit down and be completely honest and say "I'm DONE, no more".

     One example is my grandmother, it is sad to say but I have gotten to the point that I simply can not stand that woman. Let me explain why. This grandmother has always played favorites in her family. She has a favorite son, a favorite daughter-in-law, and a favorite grandchild, all of which my father, mother, or any of my siblings simply do not fall into. She had five children, all boys. Of her sons only two had any children and together they gave her five grandchildren, of which I am the oldest.

     Anyway, my mother told me that when she and my father were married my grandmother pulled her to the side and told her "When you and my son have children, and you need a babysitter DON'T ASK ME".  Needless to say growing up I never went to her house except at Christmas and Thanksgiving, and the occasional birthday, now keep in mind, we lived next door to her. Now as the years went by I figured that my grandmothers simply did not like children in their house, but that was until my youngest cousin was born.

      My youngest cousin, which happens to be a girl, would spend the night at her house all the time, even on school nights. I asked my mother why did my grandmother like my cousin the best, to be honest my mother did not have an answer, she probably asked her self the same question time and time again over the years. It was not like this cousin was an only child or had any developmental problems like you might expect, she had a brother, that my grandmother treated him like a unwanted redheaded stepchild just like she treated me and my siblings. The rule was that the  only grandchild that was invited to her home regularly and that she showered with affection was her "Favorite'.

     That is not the only reason that I have washed my hands of my grandmother. Another one is that often she would preach about the bible and that it is a sin to "shack" before you are married. Now that is all well and good.  One of her sons lived with his current wife several years before they were married, but he had been through a bitter divorce and was afraid to get married unless he felt it was forever, and he wanted to be sure that the woman he married loved him and would not cut out on him six months into the marriage like his first wife did. When he was sure that this woman he was with loved him with a forever kind of love he married her and they have been together almost 35 years, of which more than 25 of them have been as a married couple. Anyway my grandmother practically disowned him when they moved in together, and to this day his wife is not really welcome in her home. 

     Getting back to my original line of thought, my cousin, her favorite had a child with a married man, then moved in with another man when the baby was an infant. They lived together until the baby was about a year old. And my grandmother does nothing but praise her granddaughter and all her accomplishments and treats her husband like a grandson. Now my cousin has earned a associates degree and as far as I am concerned that is all she has really done.  My brother, and nephew have both earned a degrees and you won't hear that woman bragging about them. 

     I guess I should consider my self lucky she actually showed up at my wedding, though it was probably because the church it was 10 minutes away, she didn't even go to my brothers wedding instead she sat home and bragged about not being there, but when my cousin was married she was the first one at the church.

     Well over the years I learned to accept the fact that my grandmother is simply a mean old woman who has favorites and you just have to learn to deal with them. But sometimes things happen and you just have to throw your hands in the air and say with all truthfulness that you are done, finished, you are not going to take it anymore, this happened with me as far as my grandmother was concerned.

     I won't bore you with the long details in this post (maybe the next one) but in a nutshell, she wanted me to choose between her and my husband.  And when I didn't pick her side she tried to turn my father, her son, against me.  Long story short, I informed her, that she is not welcome in my home I would consider her trespassing if she entered my yard, now keep in mind she lives next door to me. I'd would pick my husband 100, no 1 billion times over her, a woman who treated me and my family like dirt since the day I was born.

    My mother is concerned that I will have regrets when she dies. True, I might have regrets, and then I might not. I will say this, if she approached me and gave me a heartfelt apology for all the years she treated me so bad, and them dropped dead in front of me; then yes I probably would have regrets for not making piece with her.  But I know that will never happen, the woman has too much pride to admit she did something that she might have to apologize for.

UPDATE My grandmother died and unfortunately we never made amends, I still have no regrets and will always pick my immediate family first (unlike my husband who picks his mother over everyone).

Back to school at 44

          Last year I decided I wanted to pursue a dream I’ve had since I graduated from High School, and that dream was to get a degree.  I told my husband and the supportive man that he is told me to go for it.  I knew in the beginning that it would be hard; I mean school is never really easy, but it was something I was passionate about and I really wanted to try.

            My first step was to go the NETC and simply ask questions about what I had to do to get enrolled.  All of my questions were answered and I went home with a college catalog and student handbook so I could decide what my next move would be. 

             As I looked through the school catalog I realized that to earn a degree, there are certain classes that are required.  I got online and found out what the fall semester class schedules were, and when it was time to register I knew exactly what classes I could take and when I could take them.  This was very helpful to the instructor that was putting my class schedule information in the computer; he looked at me and said. “I wish everyone was as organized as you are, it saves me a lot of time and trouble.”   

           As my first day of school approached I have to admit, I was excited, but there was one thing though that concerned me more than anything else, my math class, called math 150 (or fundamentals of math).  

             You see math has never been my strong suit, even when I was in high school I did not do that well, especially in algebra.  I mean when was the last time you used algebra when you balanced your checkbook, I know I never have.  All that aside, I went into my pre-algebra class as a student with an open mind and ready to learn.    

            Everything was going well those first two weeks I was absorbing the information and I felt that I was learning, and then the instructor came in with a bombshell.  A new instructor would be taking the class the next week.  Not many of the students, if any, were happy about it and neither was the instructor, but he really did not have much of a choice and neither did his students.  

            When the new instructor took the class there was almost 40 students in the class, by the end of the semester more than half of the students had dropped the course. I spoke to one of the students that had dropped out and she told me that she dropped the class because she did not like the way the new instructor gave test.  She also told me she wanted an instructor that was easier to pass.  Now I will admit that the class was hard and I did not score very well on some of the test, but I will say this I learned a lot from the new instructor and I am not talking about just mathematics. The instructor explained at the beginning that the test she gave were designed to teach us to think analytically, creatively, and practically, and I must admit, as far as I am concerned that is exactly what her test did.  In the end I passed the class with two points to spare.

            I am now taking the next math class called Math 155 (or contemporary mathematics) and I must admit it is quite a bit easier than the first one. The first test I scored a 93 and the second one I scored 96 plus I answered bonus questions which has brought my average in the class up. If I continue to pass the test with a 90 or higher average I know I will end up passing the class by more than two points like I did the first math class.    

            Overall I am pleased with my life as a student as NETC.  I have met people and I feel like I have made friends in my classes. I have no idea what the future holds for me when I finish and get my degree but I know I am a better person for it, and isn’t that what it is all about. 

My 2014 Garden

My 2014 garden

 

            I know some of you may think it is a bit early, but this is the time when my family starts planning what we will grow in the garden for the year. The soil in our yard is what my husband refers to as a sand bed and he is accurate when he says that.  It is because of this that we have to do things a bit different when it comes to growing vegetables, we have to grow our vegetables in containers. 

            Last year we planted bell peppers in containers and some of them got up to seven inches long and just as big around.  They were the perfect stuffing size.  We even sold some of them at the local farmers market. 

            One year I bought a pack of seeds that was called carnival mix.  When the plants started growing I had no idea what color pepper I was going to end up with.  We ended up with yellow, red, purple, and of course green.  My husband tried every color we produced and he definitely had his favorite color as far as which one he preferred eating on a salad or a pizza. 

            Personally, I don’t like bell peppers, but I do love to watch them grow.  I’ll see that small little flower bud and the next thing you know there is a pepper.  The pepper starts to grow and then it starts to change color.   That is when I get excited, because I know it won’t be long before I can start packing them and see just how many I am going to end up with.

             The thing is, peppers are just about the easiest vegetable to put away in the freezer.  All you do is wash them take out the seeds, cut them to the size you want and them simply put them in the freezer, no blanching required.  You don’t have to wait until you have a bushel, you can pack one a day or wait until you have more, and it is simply up to you. 

            Last year I washed and cored about one dozen or more, of my larger peppers and left them whole when I put them in the freezer.  Several times during the winter months I cooked my family stuffed peppers and I can honestly say I think my husband was happy about that.  He loves to eat vegetables, especially home grown vegetables that he has grown in his own garden.

            This year we will have some bell peppers in containers and more than likely some tomato plants as well.  If the bell peppers do as good this year as they did last year I just might try my hand at selling them at the farmers market, alongside my in-laws.  Who knows I might even try and sell some of the purple basil I am planning to try my hand at growing this year, that and whatever else pops up in the garden.

            Dawn Simmons was born and reared in the South and had never ventured far from Chesterfield County, where she was born.  You can reach her at DawnMSimmons@ymail.com or check out her Facebook page Handmade and Homegrown or the Facebook page Simmons Racing and Hot Rods.

November flower

  This is the flower for the month of November.  Isn't it pretty?

Second Math test

     Well I have taken my second test at school and I think I did pretty well (I am quite sure I passed).  This time the instructor gave the students bonus questions so with that I might just do alright.

A puzzle with a view

 

 

     This is a puzzle I got at a yard sale the last time I was at the beach.  The thing that makes this puzzle so different is the fact that when I got it there was no picture to go with it; that made putting it together quite the challenge.  As you can see I was able to persevere and the puzzle is put together.  My husband said that he thought it was Charleston.  Rainbow Row I think he called it, this would make sense seeing as I bought the puzzle at the beach, and to be completely honest I think it is a pretty picture.

Snow in the South

     Well I live in the south and I can say one thing for sure, this much snow is not something that I am used to.  Over the last three weeks we have had enough snow to make up for the past twenty years of having next to no snow at all.  The tree in the picture barely missed the house.  We were also lucky because we did not loose power.   The same can't be said for many other people in the state.  I am thankful that my husband has a truck that is a 4-wheel drive, it has come in handy and not just for us.  He helped a neighbor that lived behind us. 

  

Something Special

     My Little girl is something special.  I tell her this every day because I know that she is.  She is the only child that I will ever have and if that isn't enough to make her special the fact that I am hopelessly in love with her father, who I am married to that should make her extra special.  She is the only grandchild that my husbands parents will ever have and so far she is the only granddaughter that my parents have.  That may change if my brother and his wife have children I guess we will just have to wait and see.

    In a nutshell I guess you could say I am what you could call a happy person.  I am happy with my family and I am hopeful that I always will be.

Birthday No-Show

Well I was a no-show at my brothers birthday party or whatever it was today.  Honestly I thought it started at 6 and it started at 5, by the time I remembered about going I would have been over an hour late.  I would rather not show up if I am going to be that late.  Anyway my family cooked on the grill and we had a wonderful meal of deer sausage and french fries.  My husband likes sauerkraut and horseradish so that is what he had with his.  I will say this, that husband of mine sure can cook on the grill,

My brother's birthday

     Well my brother's birthday was the 6th and I did not go to see him.  He is having a party, or I guess you could call it a party.  He is having quite a few friends over for a chili cook-off or something to that effect.  The get together starts around 6:00 and ends when everyone leaves I guess.  I will go but I will not be staying long.  I have a six-year-old and I want her to be on a schedule that has her going to bed at a reasonably time. 

     He may not understand but then he and his wife do not have any children.  If he does not understand well that is something I will have to live with.  My number one priority is my family and by that I mean my husband and my daughter.  They are the most important people to me and that will never change. 

 

     The picture at the top of this post was not taken at my brothers house, it was taken at the local state park.  I put it in the post simply because I want a picture of some type on every post that I make in a blog.  That was not always the case but it is now.  I will probably post some pictures without any writing at all.  I guess time will tell.  Enjoy

Bact to school at 40+

    

 

 

     It has been a while since I have written anything that is purely of the top of my head so here I go.

 

     At the beginning of the 2013-2014 school year I did something that I never thought I would have the courage to do.  I went back to school.  I have to be honest it was hard at first, I mean here I am going back to school after being out over 20 years (yes that means I'm in my 40's).  I would be lying if I said it was something that did not scare me.

     The first week was by far the hardest.  I say that because I did not know where some of the places were at that I needed to go to.  One of my classes was in a room that was inside another room.  That was confusing so say the least.  The thing that was really confusing was the fact that two weeks into the class the college changed instructors of the class, and to top it off the new teacher came in the day we were suppose to have our first test.  To her credit she did not give us the test, she said that she felt it was unfair give us a test and we were unfamiliar with the way she expected the class to be run.

   Well I did not do well on all of the test but I can say that I passed the course with two points to spare.  I can say I learned a lot in that class and I am not talking about the math part.  Ms Arquize would say things that meant a lot to me and she would take the time to explain some problems if she realized that I did not understand. 

    One day she walked in and her class had shrunk down to twelve people, now keep in mind the class was originally around forty.  Anyway she walked in and stated, "This is my class.  Many are called but few are chosen, you are the chosen few that are here to learn.  You are not here to simply sit in a classroom, you are not here to waste my time, you are here to learn."

     When she said that it really made me feel good about myself.  The next semester I had another math class that I had to take and this time was so much different than it was the first time.  This time I felt better prepared for the class.  A part of me feels like I have a heads up in this class that the others simply do not have because of the previous math teacher I had.  I have been told that if you can pass her class the next class will be a breeze and so far I can say what I have heard is accurate.  I may have passed her class with only two points to spare I think I will pass the class I am taking now with out much of a problem.  Now I may be wrong, and It may end up being a lot harder, but that does not matter I know that if I work hard I can do it, because many are called but few are chosen

    

Grandma's Chicken and Dumplings

           I was looking at the calendar the other day when I noticed that it was about time for what I call family reunion season to start.  Family reunions can be so much fun, you get to see family you haven’t seen in years and catch up.  But the one thing that all family reunions have in common is good food and lots of it.

            I went to family reunions years ago with my grandmother, and she always brought her famous chicken and dumplings.  I say famous because everyone in the family knew that she made the best.  Her pot of chicken and dumplings was usually empty before half the people got through the line. 

            There was one year, however, when I thought we were going to bring the pot home untouched.   You see, that year someone else tried their hand at making my grandmothers famed dish.    They even went so far as to place their pot of dumplings next to hers.  

            It didn’t take long before word got around that one of those pots was not my grandmother’s.  Half the family had gone through the line without as much as a sample of either one.  Nobody in the family wanted dumplings that were not made by my grandmother, and they had no way of knowing which pot was hers.  That was until my grandmother reached the dumplings.

            I don’t think she had any idea how many people were watching her when she reached for the spoon that was in her pot of dumplings.  If by some chance she did know, she covered it well. 

            After she helped herself to a hearty portion, the person directly behind her, one of her nephews as I recall, leaned over and whispered in her ear, “I made sure to get behind you when I got in line so I’d get your dumplings.”

            She turned around and gave him the smile she usually reserved for her grandchildren.  Her voice was full of joy when she said, “Well you just help yourself.”  He easily smiled back as he took the spoon she handed him. 

            Thinking back, after my grandmother handed him that spoon I don’t think it was out of anyone’s hand until the pot was empty, and even then several people went back to scrape the pot, including my great-grandmother. 

            Making Chicken and Dumplings was a labor of love to my grandmother.  She always made it from scratch and only used certain ingredients.  Never did she use chicken broth in a can or premade dumplings.  She always made the broth herself by boiling the largest hen she could find, (and it had to be a hen). 

            The dumplings she made were always rolled by hand until they were so thin you could see through them. To make it any other way would have been an insult to Southern tradition. 

            My grandmother was born and raised in the South and came from a generation steeped in Southern cooking tradition.  It’s sad to say but there are a lot of the cooking shows on TV today, and they have many people thinking that the only way you can cook is if you go to culinary school, and learn how to plate a dish.  I’m sorry; I don’t really care what the food looks like on a plate.  Food is to be eaten, not looked at and put on display.  

            Unfortunately as my grandmother got older it became harder and harder for her to make chicken and dumplings and in her last years she didn’t make them at all and it was sorely missed by everyone in the family.  I have tried several times to duplicate her recipe, and I have come close, very close.  

            There is an old saying always copied never duplicated.  That is definitely my grandmother’s chicken and dumplings.

A Blue ribbon Flag at the fair

            When I was twelve years old my mother taught me how to do something that many people today say is a talent-how to crochet.

            I never thought of it as a talent, and quite honestly, I still don’t.  I think of it as something I was taught to do, and I never really forgot.  I guess the closest thing I can think of to describing it is that it’s like riding a bicycle; once you learn you never really forget. 

             Since learning how to crochet, I have made many afghans,  but there is ones that I am especially proud of.  It’s an American flag afghan.  The reason I made it was to enter it into the Southeastern Agricultural Fair, that is held in Florence every year.

            I made American flag afghan’s in the past, but I was never really happy with the way some of them turned out.  One had too many holes, while another one was lopsided in shape.  I wanted this flag to be as close to perfect as I could get it.

            I spent weeks looking for what I considered the right shade of red, white and blue.   I could not find a flag pattern that I was happy with, so I combined several patterns that I already had and turned them into what I considered to be the right one. 

            It took me just over six months to finish my flag.  I remember looking at it with pride when my husband said something that made me realize the afghan was not finished.  He asked, “Do you know how it’s going to be displayed?”

            I have to admit I had no idea how the flag would be displayed.  I researched and discovered that the proper way to display the American flag is to have the star field in the upper left hand corner. 

            I had to make 50 more stars so that the blue on both sides of the flag would have stars on it.  This way no matter how the flag was displayed it would be right.

            Confident with my flag, I headed down to Florence to enter my afghan and several other items I had made for the Southeastern Agricultural Fair.  When I got there I had no idea how to enter my items because I had never done it before.  I spoke to several of the other participants that had entered items in previous years, and they told me what to do and assured me that it was not hard at all.  They were right, and after entering my items, I went home and told my husband, who responded with a smile, “You will win a Blue Ribbon.”

            My family and I went to the fair the coming weekend.  To be honest I was nervous.  A part of me wanted to see if I had a blue ribbon attached to the flag I had worked so hard to make, and another part of me didn’t want to see in the off chance that I did not have any ribbon at all on it.

            I walked to where the handmade goods were displayed, and at first I did not see my flag, and my heart sank.  Then as I walked a little further and spotted it.  There it was in display for everyone to see, and yes, my husband was right; I did win the blue ribbon.

            I don’t know who was happier, my husband or me.  It does not really matter; we both knew that when the fair was over and I brought the flag home, it would be placed in a special place in our home.

            And it is- my blue ribbon and my American flag afghan are the first thing you see when you walk through my front door.  Every time I look at it I am filled with pride as an American and at my accomplishment.  

            I have no idea what I can make that will top making the American flag.  I have considered making the state flag, but that will have to wait until next year. 

            I do know one thing.  Whatever I do make it will be something different and totally unpredictable. 

Dinner and a movie with Dad

           On my sixteenth birthday my dad and I started a birthday tradition.  He took me out for the dinner and movie of my choice and I did the same for him on his birthday.

            Sometimes the birthday meal was a trip to a steakhouse and sometimes it was at a buffet restaurant, one year it was a simple roast beef sandwich from a fast food restaurant.   It really wasn’t important where we ate, or what movie we were going to see.  The important thing was that this was a special time that was just me and my dad.   My birthday date with Dad whether it was my birthday or his was a day that I think both of us looked forward to year after year.

            When I got married several years ago and our traditional birthday dinner and a movie date seemed to fade away.  I always managed to take my dad out to eat for his birthday, but taking him out to see a movie somehow was forgotten of indefinitely delayed, especially after my daughter was born.

            This year is going to be different.  I am taking my dad out for his birthday and we are going to have a nice meal in whatever restaurant he wants to go to watch the movie of his choice. 

            It was no surprise that when I spoke to my dad several weeks before his birthday that he was quick to tell me what movie he wanted to see. “We’re going to see the Lone Ranger for my birthday this year aren’t we?” 

           There was a light in his eyes and in his voice when he said it, and I knew he was looking forward to it as much as I was.  I think he was glad that this year the movie that was our birthday tradition would not be forgotten like it has been the past few years.

            I really don’t know the reason why my dad likes the Lone Ranger the way that he does.  Maybe it’s the western theme that takes him back to his childhood or maybe it’s the story of the last ranger that survived an ambush, I don’t know, all I do know is that for as long as I can remember my dad has liked the Lone Ranger.   He even had a truck that he painted grey and had the words “The Lone Ranger” painted on the side.  I would not call him a diehard fan, I mean he does not have Lone Ranger memorabilia all over his house, but he does enjoy watching the classic television episodes with Clayton Moore in the role of The Lone Ranger and Jay Silverheels as Tonto.

             The Lone Ranger movie that came out this year over the Fourth of July weekend opened to mixed reviews.  The movie may be the best I’ve ever seen or it may be the worst I’ll ever see.  I really don’t know nor do I care.   The real reason I’m going to watch the movie is not because Johnny Depp is playing Tonto, and it’s not because it’s a Disney movie.            I’m going to watch the Lone Ranger movie with my dad because it’s what he wants to see on his birthday. 

            When I think about the Lone Ranger movie years from now I am not going to remember if it was a blockbuster at the box office or a flop.  I’m going to remember the wonderful birthday dinner and a movie date I had with my dad.  I am going to make a memory that I will be able to cherish for years to come, and I think that is a lot more important than what some Hollywood movie critic has to say about a movie that they aren’t impressed with. 

 

 

The Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of Heaven lies the Rainbow Bridge.

When a beloved pet dies, it goes to the rainbow bridge.  It makes friends with other animals and frolics over rolling hills and peaceful lush meadows of green.  They are as healthy and playful as we remember them in days gone by.

Together, the animals chase and play, but the day comes when a pet will suddenly stop and look into the distance…bright eyes intent, eager body quivering.  Suddenly recognizing you, your pet bounds quickly across the green fields and into your embrace.  You celebrate in joyous reunion.  You will never again separate.

Happy tears and kisses are warm and plentiful; your hands caress the face you missed.  You look into the loving eyes of your pet and know that you never really parted.  You realize that though out of sight, your love had been remembered.

You cross the bridge together, never to be parted again.